Sexpert reveals the two most common questions about “50 Shades of Grey”
With “50 Shades of Grey” back in the news due to casting drama for the film adaptation, I am receiving more questions recently about the sex the characters have in the book.
Here are the two most common questions and my answers:
What type of people have that kind of sex? Many people have many different kinds of sex. No one can tell, by simply looking at someone, what their lives are like in the bedroom. However, I can confirm that the people I have worked with who have the most satisfying sex lives are the ones who have open communication with their partners. In “50 Shades of Grey,” the two characters engage in sex that has a bondage and domination/submission component to it. Before the first sex scene, the male character has an honest conversation with the female character about what he wants out of their sex. She asks questions, thinks about it, and then agrees. There are no victims in the book, just two consenting adults enjoying themselves.
Does the popularity of this book mean I’m going to need to start having this type of sex to keep up with the times? Absolutely not! You don’t have to do anything sexually that you don’t want to. While the popularity of this book may have more people talking about “kinkier” sex, the book is, by no means, a template for a better sex life. And just because the fictional account of two characters seems steamier than your reality, it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with the way you’re doing it, unless you say so. If you’re intrigued by what you read and want to give it (or anything new) a try, discuss the possibilities with your partner. They may not agree but you’ll never know unless you ask.